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Equanimity: Let go of criticism and praise

by Donna Torney on May 2, 2016 · 2 comments

In our goal-driven world, it is very easy to get caught up in outcomes.  Our ‘output’ is always being measured.  We have quotas at work and expectations from family and friends.  As if that weren’t enough, we can get caught up in the joy-stealing process of comparing ourselves to others.   As social creatures, we […]


When you next find yourself among humans…..

by Donna Torney on January 17, 2017 · 1 comment

“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt Comparing situation A with situation B is a big part of how we make it through the day. Overuse of this often unconscious process, however, can feed anxiety and feelings of being “less than” or “better than” that lead to separation, isolation, and in worst cases, to […]

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Be Like Fred

by Donna Torney on December 2, 2016 · 0 comments

In Dickens’ timeless Christmas Carol we meet Ebenezer Scrooge, a joyless bachelor who just can’t seem to muster one drop of generosity for any being on earth, not even his amiable nephew, Fred.  In spite of Ebenezer’s outright hostile response to his nephew’s invitation to Christmas dinner, Fred remains steadfast in his kindness toward his uncle. Let’s all try to […]


On Getting Approval

by Donna Torney on August 21, 2016 · 0 comments

Recently, I shared an Instagram photo and quote by Yogi Bhajan on the mindful hub Facebook page. you can see it bellow. I received many responses from mindful hub readers.  I wondered why it struck such a chord, but then I remembered that we are deeply social animals.  Whether we like it our not, we […]


Watching a child struggle with addiction is devastating and deciding how to help an addicted child is one of the most anguish-provoking processes a parent can go through. Like running a marathon, standing by a child trying to break free from addiction requires deliberate, purposeful, ongoing self-care.  The good news is that mindfulness practices can help build […]


Apparently birds that survive cyclones fly right into the heart of the cyclone and the energy of it lifts them up above the turmoil. My teacher at meditation class tonight was talking about our human tendency to get caught up in a cyclone of thought, of suffering and of wanting things to be something other […]


40 Days of Letting Go: Day 24 ~ Let go of fearing pain

by Donna Torney on September 24, 2015 · 0 comments

There are four heart-opening and heart-healing mindsets that Buddhists call the four immeasurables:  Equanimity, Loving-kindness, Compassion, and sympathetic Joy.  These four mindsets are referred to as “immeasurable” because of their limitless ability to end suffering.  Each immeasurable counteracts a mindset that keeps us stuck and prevents us from letting go of pain. On day 22 […]


40 Days of Letting Go: Day 22 ~ Let go of prejudice

by Donna Torney on September 22, 2015 · 0 comments

You might be thinking, “oh I can skip this one – it doesn’t apply to me.”  But at times we all let pre-conceived opinions, judgements, or positions run the show.  Subtle or not-so-subtle, these biases color our world, so it’s helpful to shine the light of mindfulness on them, and, if we can’t completely break free, at […]


40 Days of Letting Go: Day 14 ~ Let go of planning

by Donna Torney on September 14, 2015 · 0 comments

A health crisis, a job loss, a rejection letter….rejected love.  We can tantrum, “it’s not fair”… “I don’t want to relocate!”….. “I can’t accept that it’s over!”…… The ideas of equanimity and acceptance are central to mindfulness meditation, and can help us welcome life’s detours. “Consider that not getting what you want can be a wonderful […]


Mindful Attitudes – Part II

by Donna Torney on May 31, 2011 · 0 comments

In our last post we looked at four attitudinal foundations of mindfulness; non-judging, patience, beginner’s mind, and trust.  Today, let’s look at the last four through seven, with a bonus eighth. 4.  Non-striving. Meditation is about switching from an orientation of doing to being.  Having too many expectations for meditation can set you up for […]