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What’s the Difference Between Ease and Easy?

by Donna Torney on February 8, 2017 · 0 comments

What comes to mind when you hear the word easy?  maybe a single-digit math problem, or a six-piece puzzle?  Perhaps a recipe with four ingredients. When it comes to the word ease, however, it’s not so simple to pull up a visual.  Ease is more of a feeling, more of a state of mind than […]

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Make Napping the New Black

by Donna Torney on January 13, 2017 · 0 comments

The other day I mentioned that I felt guilty after taking a nap.  Luckily I have some kind friends who answered with loving responses, encouraging me to rest.  If only our culture would do the same.  If only we were allowed, like bears, to turn off our metabolism, tuck in the kids, and wake up […]

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Let things be unfinished.  Stop folding the laundry and go to bed.  Leave the dishes and take a walk with a friend. One of the central tenets of the Japanese art of Wabi Sabi is that nothing is ever finished.    Think about this idea for a second or two….Isn’t that freeing?  It is a […]

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Gentle Fall Transition: Day Eight – Change your mind

by Donna Torney on September 14, 2016 · 0 comments

You have the right to change your mind. Summer is about to end.  Schedules are filling up.  Did you over-commit yourself?  Did you sign up for a class you don’t like?  Join a committee that is cutting into family time?  Say yes to a second date you aren’t sure about?  You have the right to […]

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How much to pack into the stream of life?

by Donna Torney on September 7, 2016 · 0 comments

Dan Siegal talks about the “river of wellness.”  On one bank we have rigidity.  This is behavior that is inflexible, guarded, unforgiving.  On the other bank we have It’s hard to swim in the middle of the river if we try to pack too much into the stream of life.  Too much activity can cause […]

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One of the basic tenets of mindfulness known as “beginner’s mind” describes the practice of seeing a well-known situation with a fresh perspective.   How we often act in the presence of someone we “know well” can help illustrate the opposite of beginner’s mind, which could be called “expert mind,” or “know-it-all mind,” where we […]

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You Already Know This Stuff

by Donna Torney on May 29, 2016 · 0 comments

As you practice the stress reduction and mindfulness-based cognitive behavior techniques found at mindful hub its helpful to remember that you already know this stuff. You are not an anxious person trying to learn how to be calm.  You are a calm person who has spent too much time practicing being anxious.  Being calm is […]

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Your Rapt Attention

by Donna Torney on May 22, 2016 · 0 comments

The greatest gift you can give someone is your rapt attention.  “Rapt” someone you love today! Here’s how:  Take a deep breath, pay full attention to the one who is asking for your attention. When thoughts of “I have other things I need to be doing” or “I don’t really agree with what he is […]

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Equanimity: Let go of criticism and praise

by Donna Torney on May 2, 2016 · 2 comments

In our goal-driven world, it is very easy to get caught up in outcomes.  Our ‘output’ is always being measured.  We have quotas at work and expectations from family and friends.  As if that weren’t enough, we can get caught up in the joy-stealing process of comparing ourselves to others.   As social creatures, we […]

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